What's happening? Choose a situation.
They don't want to give kisses or hugsDeciding about their own body helps them recognise and set boundaries.
They get frustrated when something doesn't work outFrustration eases sooner when someone names it and stays close.
They find it hard to talk about something that worries themTalking is easier when there's no rush and no judgement.
A friend doesn't want to play with themLearning to ask and to respect a “not now” looks after friendships.
They get very angry and shout or hitAnger is OK; hurting is not. First calm, then words.
They're scared at nightNaming the fear and having a plan makes it smaller.
They're sad and won't say whySometimes a hug helps; other times, some time on their own.
They feel too shy to speak or join inGoing little by little, without pressure, builds confidence.Ideas for talking at home, in the car or before bed.
Conversation guideFeelings
Simple questions to put a name to the day's feelings.
Questions after the songFrustration
To talk about mistakes without fear.
Questions after the songConsent
To practise other ways of saying hello.
Conversation guideBoundaries
How to respect their boundaries at home so they learn to set them elsewhere.
CraftMy “Stop!” sign20 minConversation guideAsking for help
Work out with the child who they can go to at home, at school and elsewhere.
CraftMy helping hand15 minActivityCalm
Set up a quiet space for when feelings are going too fast.
CraftThe calm-down jar20 min
